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Raghav Mehra's avatar

Enjoyed the read, especially the section on inversion of thought process and waiting 48 hours to make a rational choice. The only thing I don't relate with is ... supporting Chelsea over the mighty Manchester United! 😂

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Bechem Ayuk's avatar

Thank you so much Raghav. I'm glad you enjoyed the article.

Only one of those teams can brag about being the champions of the world and it's not Man Utd😂😂

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Astrid Sadaya's avatar

These are really smart points Becham. I have done dumb decisions before too (jumping in an easy-money job that ended up scamming me into investing money i didn't have) and all these three truly made a difference in avoiding stress.

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Bechem Ayuk's avatar

Thank you so much Astrid! I'm glad this resonated with you

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Free soul's avatar

I notice when I slow my breath down I can breathe better

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Karo (Product with Attitude)'s avatar

You just made a lot of people feel less alone. Great read Bechem.

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Bechem Ayuk's avatar

Thank you so much Karo!

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Alisha Smith's avatar

This was such a clear and practical breakdown. I’ve definitely made decisions from a place of urgency or emotion and paid the price later. I really appreciated the reminder that better choices often start with slowing down and creating space to think. Thank you for making wisdom feel accessible, not overwhelming.

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Bechem Ayuk's avatar

Thank you so much Alisha. I'm glad this resonated with you.

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Heartfelt Boundaries's avatar

Great piece! Especially loved the wait 48 hours—but maybe not at the desert table deciding on a piece of cake. Lol 😁

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Bechem Ayuk's avatar

Thank you so much for reading! Yeah at the end of the day all these strategies are useless without common sense😂😂

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Joel Salinas's avatar

Enjoyed the medical piece!

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Amel Mehenaoui's avatar

The “wait 48 hours” is such a grounded rule. Love it. Slowing down helps the emotional dust settle so clarity can rise. Definitely worth adding this to our mental toolkit! Interesting article, Bechem!

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Bechem Ayuk's avatar

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts Amel! I'm glad you loved it.

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Amel Mehenaoui's avatar

Anytime! Thanks for writing it!

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Renato Angelo/Systems Please!'s avatar

Bechem, this is an outstanding article. This topic is of the highest importance and the way you wrote these 3 strategies is so accessible that it makes it stupidly easy.

I have a request for a future article, if you're willing to grant me a wish. For the "wait 48 hours" framework, I'd like you to elaborate on what should happen within this period. I understand that the ideas and possibilities will mature in our minds while we "wait" (we're not waiting, we are letting our subconscious do the heavy lifting), but I guess we can also take proactive actions to improve our chances of making a better, more educated decision.

I'd love to see you explore that. ;)

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Bechem Ayuk's avatar

Thank you so much Renato! You're right… during those 48 hours we're not meant to just sit and wait passively. We should use that time to shift from emotional impulse to intentional clarity. I will make this the focus of a future article. I apppreciate the thoughtful nudge.

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Aahan's avatar
5dEdited

This was an interesting read

Would love to dig deeper into how to get oneself to actually overlook immediate gratifications - at least in the context of daily lives, for example spending multiple hours on youtube looking at people doing random things vs prepping for an exam up ahead

I think its the daily ones that somehow feel a little hard to zoom out from

Another angle that comes to mind is, what if going through this process everyday turns you into a constantly efficiency seeking machine that is so quick to burnout

How you do you find a balance

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